Career Insights for Women in Business

Power of Legacy

Power of Legacy

Build something that outlives you. ~Alexander Rose It’s a day I won’t soon forget. This time of year is always bittersweet. It marks a time of new beginnings and it also marks the time of year when I remember her most. January 18, 2014 was the day when I gave one of the most profound talks of my life. I was so nervous my hands were shaking. I am still amazed at the strength of my voice and my ability to hold back the tears. I can still hear her laugh, see her smile, hear her call my name. I remember the times we laughed together and when we cried together. She was such a strong, loving, and powerful woman whose influence is instrumental in me becoming the woman I am today. It’s been three years since she died and last Wednesday was the three-year anniversary of her Celebration of Life service. We all have life defining moments and the death of my beloved granny, Dorothy Henry, is definitely one of those for me. Dealing with life without her became my new normal and through it, I discovered a strength I never knew I possessed. Below I share a few of the life and leadership lessons I learned from this amazing woman. 1- Practice fierce love. You may be thinking to yourself, what on earth does love have to do with leadership. The answer. EVERYTHING. One of the things I shared with the family and friends who came to celebrate granny’s life that day, was her ability to love the seemingly unlovable. I was always amazed at her ability...
New Year… New You?

New Year… New You?

A dream without a plan is just a wish. ~Katherine Paterson Helloooooo 2017! I don’t know about you, but 2016 was a year that had its share of ups and downs. There were days when I was tempted to think there were more downs than ups, but that simply isn’t true. I love the new year. It feels like we all get a blank page and we get the chance to write a new story. However, oftentimes I have found that in my rush to map out all I desire to accomplish in the new year, I often never take the time to acknowledge all that I accomplished in the previous year. While I am looking forward to this new year, I have often found that one of the reasons we lose our motivation towards achieving our goals is because we have an unrealistic view of how far we’ve come in comparison to how much further we have to go. So before I go any further, I’d like to share just a few of the things that I accomplished in 2016. Visited Haiti for the first time and had a second visit to the Bahamas (just gorgeous) Celebrated my 40th birthday Ended a business relationship that was no longer healthy for me Hosted my first Take the Leap™ event (in another state no less) Celebrated 8 years of marriage to my amazing hubby Toby Started leading a networking group for women business owners Launched my new Tandem program so that aspiring business owners won’t have to leap alone Now that I’ve gone first, here are six simple steps to...
The Trap of Comparison

The Trap of Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy. ~Theodore Roosevelt I remember it well. The members of my business club and I were sitting around the living room at our ski chalet in New York. I was elated that we’d just laid out my next steps for the remainder of 2016 and into 2017. For years, I’ve said I wanted to teach/speak, write books and host retreats, but I wasn’t doing it at least not at the level I wanted. Of course, I would dibble and dabble in it and then I’d go right back to doing what I thought I “should do” in order to build a successful business. However, sitting there in New York, I said enough is enough and I drew the line in the sand and said “no more building a business you don’t love.” I shared with the group, a highlight of my brunch conversation with my colleague Mark this past June. He and I were sitting out on the patio of a restaurant, enjoying the beautiful Utah sunshine and pancakes, when he asked me a question that forever changed my trajectory, “Nadia what if you put all of your time, energy and resources into doing what you love? Imagine how different your business would look.” Wait… what?! Can I really do that? We spent some time brainstorming and talking numbers. After all, Mark is THE Budget Nerd. I could not get his question out of my mind for months! I was so stinking excited and scared out of my mind all at the same time. It may seem like a crazy question, but I’d been...
Cancelled No More

Cancelled No More

I can’t keep cancelling out on my life. ~R. Jackson I was recently chatting with an amazing woman from California. We were chatting about her desire to leave her full-time job and transition into her business full-time. She has such big goals to change the financial lives of families and helping them to not only live well financially, but to also enable them to leave a legacy (financial and otherwise) to their children. As we were talking, I could tell she had taken a great deal of time to really think about what she would do and the impact it would have on those she served. While there were several things which struck me during our conversation, her response to my question of “why now?” was what rang in my head long after our conversation was over… She said, “I can’t keep cancelling out on my life.” We talked about fear, procrastination and her desire to apply the skills, focus and dedication she’s provided to help others achieve their dreams to her dream. Can you relate? Have there been times when you allowed fear, procrastination, the “urgency” of the needs of others, etc. to get between you and what you really desired? I know I can. I’ve been there more times than I care to even admit. I remember one particular instance of this occurred while working with a big client. What started out as an amazing opportunity left me one day looking at my husband Toby and wondering how all of my time was suddenly going towards building someone else’s dream while my own was “on life support.”...
Take Your Power Back

Take Your Power Back

A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult. ~Melinda Gates I rarely talk about politics, mainly because they seem to bring out the worst in people. I mean the absolute worst! This last presidential election in the United States was just downright brutal. Whether you were a #NastyWoman or a staunch Trump supporter, I believe that is one thing everyone can agree on. It was one ugly fight. However, that is not what this article is about so breathe. I want to talk about one of the themes that arose after the election and that was women and how we process our feelings. Every woman I know felt some type of way about the presidential election results. She was disappointed. She was afraid. She was happy. She was angry. She was confused. She was indifferent. She was hopeful. She was numb. She was worried. She was frustrated. She was relieved. She was sad. She was excited. She was mad as hell. She may have even been some combination of all of the above. It doesn’t really matter, but one thing was for sure… she had some feelings about what was happening in the world around her. And that’s where things became interesting. As women turned to social media and other outlets expressing their feelings about the election results, those who expressed those feelings of anger, disappointment, sadness, and grief were “encouraged” to get over it, stop focusing on the negative, to pick up and move forward, etc. Why? Why must we stuff our feelings so...
But I Don’t Fit

But I Don’t Fit

“There is no way I can put all of me in this box anymore.” Have you ever been there? At that point of frustration and desperation because you feel as if you will suffocate if you don’t express all of you in your work. Why do I have to choose? Why can’t I express all of me? How can I not use my entire range of skills in my work? These are often questions that accompany those feelings of being done with the box. You know, the box that people try to put you in oftentimes so they’ll be more comfortable with you. I remember hearing a former pastor say, “Never let anyone else create your world. They will always create it too small.” That one saying has stuck with me for nearly 20 years and I often think of it when discussing “the box.” In our society we are almost obsessed with a “check the box” mentality. But what happens when you don’t fit in the box? I was chatting with a client recently and she expressed her frustration with not fitting into a box. She’s a gifted stylist, personal shopper, make-up artist, and social media expert. She has a way of looking at you and seeing how your offline and online brand should align. And she can help you dress for your body style in a way that fits your personality. But wait, there’s more. She also takes your offline style and presence and aligns it with your online presence. She has the skills and ability to manage your online presence as well. I am always in...
But what if I fail?

But what if I fail?

The fear of failure is one of the most common fears that I encounter in my work with women. What if things don’t turn out the way I imagined? What then? The truth is, despite being in business for a while, I too ask that same question, “but what I fail”. I have learned over the years to follow that up with “So what”. Hear me out… Simply put… fear is a liar! You can’t trust it. When I first took the leap by launching my business, I had a lot of fear, doubt, concerns, and questions. Will this work? Do I have what it takes? What if we end up HOMELESS?! OMG… the list went on and on and on. Until, I started taking action by getting real with myself and by hiring a coach to show me how to get from where I was to where I desired to be. First, I began by asking myself, two questions, “What am I REALLY afraid of” and “Will I die?” You may think I’m being a little over the top when asking about death, but the truth of the matter is this, if I went for it and things didn’t work out would it kill me? And the answer is NO. The other question, “what am I really afraid of”, helps me get to the root of what is REALLY going on inside my head. And can I just tell you this? The majority of the time when I take the time to investigate what I’m worried about, it’s the opinions of other people. “What will people think? What...
Ready… Set… LEAP!

Ready… Set… LEAP!

“Standing at that impossible junction, we can make a radical choice. We can learn to fly.” ~Unknown Have you ever had to make a bold move out of your comfort zone? You know the kind of decision that flooded your mind with doubt and your heart with trepidation… yeah THAT kind of move. That was me recently in my business. For the past year or so my company has had the opportunity to support the business growth of one of my mentors. Talk about an opportunity to learn, grow, expand and have a lot of fun while doing it. Let’s just say it was one… wild… ride! And yet I felt the familiar pangs of longing to focus on some projects that were in my heart and to have the time freedom that led me to launch a business in the first place. But did I mention, I was learning, growing and having fun? Why did my gut have to get in the way? What would I do now without the solace and protection of my mentors? Would I be okay? Did I really have the courage to leave this group who had become family? Was a move that drastic even necessary? These were many of the questions that I asked myself as I wrestled on the inside before making the decision to pick up the phone and say to my mentor “I’m leaving the team.” Surely there had to be another way!  My husband, Toby and I decided that it was time to direct more of my focus on other projects that were more directly related to my...