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Let’s Talk About Courage

Let’s Talk About Courage

Taking action gives you the courage to leap. So do it afraid. ~Dr. Nadia Brown One of the common topics that came up at the Take the Leap™ 2016 event was courage. A common question often sounded like, “Do I really have the courage to pursue my dreams?” My answer to that question is a resounding YES! According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, courage is defined as “the ability to do something that frightens one.” Oftentimes our big dreams scare the bejeezus out of us. There are many questions floating through our mind. Questions such as: Can I really do this? How do I get from here to there? What if I fail? Will this really work? What was I thinking?! Here’s the thing about pursuing your big dream, fear WILL show up. It’s not a matter of if, it’s just a matter of when. It may be tempting to attempt to wait for the fear to pass before taking action, but that’s not how this works. Action eradicates fear. Taking action, even baby steps help to build your courage and eliminate the fear. Don’t allow fear to keep you paralyzed. Move forward. Here a few ways to build your courage: Get clear on your vision. Clarity is powerful in and of itself. When we don’t know where we are going, it clouds not only our vision, but our judgement. AND it’s exhausting! Take time to get clear on your vision so that you can outline clear action steps. Identify the next step. That’s right. Just one step. Ask yourself, what’s the next best step? Then do it. Find your group...
But what if I fail?

But what if I fail?

The fear of failure is one of the most common fears that I encounter in my work with women. What if things don’t turn out the way I imagined? What then? The truth is, despite being in business for a while, I too ask that same question, “but what I fail”. I have learned over the years to follow that up with “So what”. Hear me out… Simply put… fear is a liar! You can’t trust it. When I first took the leap by launching my business, I had a lot of fear, doubt, concerns, and questions. Will this work? Do I have what it takes? What if we end up HOMELESS?! OMG… the list went on and on and on. Until, I started taking action by getting real with myself and by hiring a coach to show me how to get from where I was to where I desired to be. First, I began by asking myself, two questions, “What am I REALLY afraid of” and “Will I die?” You may think I’m being a little over the top when asking about death, but the truth of the matter is this, if I went for it and things didn’t work out would it kill me? And the answer is NO. The other question, “what am I really afraid of”, helps me get to the root of what is REALLY going on inside my head. And can I just tell you this? The majority of the time when I take the time to investigate what I’m worried about, it’s the opinions of other people. “What will people think? What...
Do You Have the Courage?

Do You Have the Courage?

“Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?” – Elizabeth Gilbert On a recent flight to Salt Lake City, Utah, I started reading the book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. I’d heard some good things about the book from friends and colleagues. And while I purchased the book several months ago, I hadn’t yet made the time to read it. So there I was at 30,000 feet (or so) and I decided to dive in. It wasn’t long before I came across this question, which caused me to pause and close the book for a moment… Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you? Yikes! Well that’s an interesting question. Do I? Do you? As I opened the book again to continue reading, little did I know that this question would somehow be the basis for the entire trip. Once I arrived in Utah and got checked into my hotel, I ventured out for breakfast with my colleague Mark. During our meal, as we were talking about business, I shared with Mark my idea to host more luxury retreats for women leaders and the laundry list of reasons for my hesitation not to do so. Mark being the numbers guy that he is was more than happy to share ideas on how that could become a reality without it sucking all of the joy and fun out of the project. My growing excitement about this idea and the possibilities was not lost on Mark and he asked me this question: “what if you...
Making A Good First Impression: You Only Have 7 Seconds

Making A Good First Impression: You Only Have 7 Seconds

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. ~ Unknown No matter where you are in your career or business, relationships are important to your success. Therefore, when meeting new people we all know that it is important that we make a good first impression. According to an NYU study conducted by Dr. Michael Solomon, we make eleven critical decisions within the first seven seconds of meeting someone new. These decisions include: education level, economic level, perceived credibility, trustworthiness, level of sophistication, sexual orientation, political background, social desirability, ethnic background, whether or not you share the same values, and level of success. Wow! That’s a lot of decisions made in a very short amount of time. Below are three quick tips to help you make a favorable first impression: Check your attitude. Keep in mind that people can sense your attitude. Make a conscious decision about the attitude you wish to project. Smile. Since smiles are free…stop hoarding them! It is hard to make a good first impression if you look like you just sucked a bag of sour lemons. Shake hands. Provide a firm friendly handshake and look the person in the eyes. According to Carol Goman, “it takes an average of three hours of continuous interaction to develop the same level of rapport that you can get from a single handshake”. There’s power in having a good handshake so do not provide a limp one. Remember, you only have seven seconds so make them count! Need additional tips to making a great first impression? Join myself and Malissa Davis, founder of B.Y.E. - Best...

Welcome to Doyenne

More now than ever before women hold leadership positions. However, many woman have not achieved the same level of respect or success as their male counterparts. In fact, research shows women in leadership positions are still less likely to do things such as actively discuss their careers with their leaders or even ask for a raise, which causes women to feel as if their careers are not progressing the way they believe they should. Which begs the question: What is holding us back? Is it something internal, external, or maybe both? What’s holding you back? A lot of talk and research is centered around the external glass ceilings that are preventing women from progressing to the higher levels of leadership within organizations, but what about those internal glass ceilings that are standing in our way? When I realized that I wasn’t moving ahead in my career like I wanted to, I acknowledged it was an obstacle within myself that was holding me back. There I was mid-20s an MBA graduate working in the financial industry … and bumping my head! I saw that I was not pursuing certain opportunities, because I didn’t feel qualified. I wasn’t even giving myself the opportunity to be told no, because I was taking myself out of the game. I am thankful for a female mentor, also my manager at the time, who began to encourage and play up my strengths! I broke through an internal glass ceiling and began to take necessary risks to progress forward as a leader. And that is what I want to give to you! Welcome to my leadership...