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Power of Legacy

Power of Legacy

Build something that outlives you. ~Alexander Rose It’s a day I won’t soon forget. This time of year is always bittersweet. It marks a time of new beginnings and it also marks the time of year when I remember her most. January 18, 2014 was the day when I gave one of the most profound talks of my life. I was so nervous my hands were shaking. I am still amazed at the strength of my voice and my ability to hold back the tears. I can still hear her laugh, see her smile, hear her call my name. I remember the times we laughed together and when we cried together. She was such a strong, loving, and powerful woman whose influence is instrumental in me becoming the woman I am today. It’s been three years since she died and last Wednesday was the three-year anniversary of her Celebration of Life service. We all have life defining moments and the death of my beloved granny, Dorothy Henry, is definitely one of those for me. Dealing with life without her became my new normal and through it, I discovered a strength I never knew I possessed. Below I share a few of the life and leadership lessons I learned from this amazing woman. 1- Practice fierce love. You may be thinking to yourself, what on earth does love have to do with leadership. The answer. EVERYTHING. One of the things I shared with the family and friends who came to celebrate granny’s life that day, was her ability to love the seemingly unlovable. I was always amazed at her ability...
The Trap of Comparison

The Trap of Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy. ~Theodore Roosevelt I remember it well. The members of my business club and I were sitting around the living room at our ski chalet in New York. I was elated that we’d just laid out my next steps for the remainder of 2016 and into 2017. For years, I’ve said I wanted to teach/speak, write books and host retreats, but I wasn’t doing it at least not at the level I wanted. Of course, I would dibble and dabble in it and then I’d go right back to doing what I thought I “should do” in order to build a successful business. However, sitting there in New York, I said enough is enough and I drew the line in the sand and said “no more building a business you don’t love.” I shared with the group, a highlight of my brunch conversation with my colleague Mark this past June. He and I were sitting out on the patio of a restaurant, enjoying the beautiful Utah sunshine and pancakes, when he asked me a question that forever changed my trajectory, “Nadia what if you put all of your time, energy and resources into doing what you love? Imagine how different your business would look.” Wait… what?! Can I really do that? We spent some time brainstorming and talking numbers. After all, Mark is THE Budget Nerd. I could not get his question out of my mind for months! I was so stinking excited and scared out of my mind all at the same time. It may seem like a crazy question, but I’d been...
But what if I fail?

But what if I fail?

The fear of failure is one of the most common fears that I encounter in my work with women. What if things don’t turn out the way I imagined? What then? The truth is, despite being in business for a while, I too ask that same question, “but what I fail”. I have learned over the years to follow that up with “So what”. Hear me out… Simply put… fear is a liar! You can’t trust it. When I first took the leap by launching my business, I had a lot of fear, doubt, concerns, and questions. Will this work? Do I have what it takes? What if we end up HOMELESS?! OMG… the list went on and on and on. Until, I started taking action by getting real with myself and by hiring a coach to show me how to get from where I was to where I desired to be. First, I began by asking myself, two questions, “What am I REALLY afraid of” and “Will I die?” You may think I’m being a little over the top when asking about death, but the truth of the matter is this, if I went for it and things didn’t work out would it kill me? And the answer is NO. The other question, “what am I really afraid of”, helps me get to the root of what is REALLY going on inside my head. And can I just tell you this? The majority of the time when I take the time to investigate what I’m worried about, it’s the opinions of other people. “What will people think? What...
What to do as a Leader When You Don’t Have the Words

What to do as a Leader When You Don’t Have the Words

“If you are tuned out of your own emotions, you will be poor at reading them in other people.” – Daniel Goleman What do you do as a leader when you don’t have the words? When you cannot articulate how you’re feeling or quickly come up with an answer to a situation that looms so large it feels as if there is no real solution? As a nation, this past week has been challenging. We have watched some horrific events unfold right before our very eyes. And it seemed that just when you thought it couldn’t get any worse, you woke up to the news that it did. What do you do as a leader when emotions run high and solutions seemingly run low? This is the question I’ve pondered over the past week or so as I worked to gather my own thoughts, assess my own emotions and determine my next course of action. It’s bad enough when things like this occur and you have to deal with your individual emotions, responses, and reactions. It’s an entirely different thing when you then are faced with the thoughts, emotions, and reactions of your team, your children, your family, your colleagues, your neighbors, etc. The world didn’t stop because bad things were happening. Many of us woke up to bad news, went to sleep to this news, watched it continue to unfold on TV and social media and yet life…continued…anyway. We watched (some of us continue to watch) as many of our friends, colleagues, and loved ones lashed out in hurt, anger, disbelief, and confusion. And let’s just face it, the issue...
Develop Your BIG Vision

Develop Your BIG Vision

“Little girls with dreams become women with vision.” ~Unknown I love talking about BIG vision. According to Strengthsfinder 2.0, one of my top strengths is futuristic. I can take a look at the vision and see how things could be in three to five years. It’s exciting to set a big goal and then start taking the steps toward making it happen. While this is exciting for some, it can be daunting for others. Having a big vision can be a little intimidating. How can I possibly achieve something that BIG? Is it really possible for me? Whenever I run into that question for myself and with my clients, I ask the question “how do you eat an elephant?” The answer: “one bite at a time.” This message really sunk in for me when I started my doctoral journey. All new doctoral candidates were required to attend an orientation event in Atlanta. There we were all excited about embarking on this journey to earn our doctoral credentials. One of the faculty members stood up and asked that very question “how do you eat an elephant?” when discussing the dissertation. This, in my opinion, is the biggest thing that doctoral candidates struggle with and has led to many of them being A.B.D. (All But Dissertation). Everyone starts out toward the goal excited and full of energy and zeal, but not everyone makes it to the finish line. I was intrigued by the fact that so many candidates will complete their coursework and yet for whatever reason not complete the dissertation. There are a number of reasons why this is the...