Take Your Power Back

Take Your Power Back

A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult. ~Melinda Gates I rarely talk about politics, mainly because they seem to bring out the worst in people. I mean the absolute worst! This last presidential election in the United States was just downright brutal. Whether you were a #NastyWoman or a staunch Trump supporter, I believe that is one thing everyone can agree on. It was one ugly fight. However, that is not what this article is about so breathe. I want to talk about one of the themes that arose after the election and that was women and how we process our feelings. Every woman I know felt some type of way about the presidential election results. She was disappointed. She was afraid. She was happy. She was angry. She was confused. She was indifferent. She was hopeful. She was numb. She was worried. She was frustrated. She was relieved. She was sad. She was excited. She was mad as hell. She may have even been some combination of all of the above. It doesn’t really matter, but one thing was for sure… she had some feelings about what was happening in the world around her. And that’s where things became interesting. As women turned to social media and other outlets expressing their feelings about the election results, those who expressed those feelings of anger, disappointment, sadness, and grief were “encouraged” to get over it, stop focusing on the negative, to pick up and move forward, etc. Why? Why must we stuff our feelings so...
But I Don’t Fit

But I Don’t Fit

“There is no way I can put all of me in this box anymore.” Have you ever been there? At that point of frustration and desperation because you feel as if you will suffocate if you don’t express all of you in your work. Why do I have to choose? Why can’t I express all of me? How can I not use my entire range of skills in my work? These are often questions that accompany those feelings of being done with the box. You know, the box that people try to put you in oftentimes so they’ll be more comfortable with you. I remember hearing a former pastor say, “Never let anyone else create your world. They will always create it too small.” That one saying has stuck with me for nearly 20 years and I often think of it when discussing “the box.” In our society we are almost obsessed with a “check the box” mentality. But what happens when you don’t fit in the box? I was chatting with a client recently and she expressed her frustration with not fitting into a box. She’s a gifted stylist, personal shopper, make-up artist, and social media expert. She has a way of looking at you and seeing how your offline and online brand should align. And she can help you dress for your body style in a way that fits your personality. But wait, there’s more. She also takes your offline style and presence and aligns it with your online presence. She has the skills and ability to manage your online presence as well. I am always in...
Let’s Talk About Courage

Let’s Talk About Courage

Taking action gives you the courage to leap. So do it afraid. ~Dr. Nadia Brown One of the common topics that came up at the Take the Leap™ 2016 event was courage. A common question often sounded like, “Do I really have the courage to pursue my dreams?” My answer to that question is a resounding YES! According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, courage is defined as “the ability to do something that frightens one.” Oftentimes our big dreams scare the bejeezus out of us. There are many questions floating through our mind. Questions such as: Can I really do this? How do I get from here to there? What if I fail? Will this really work? What was I thinking?! Here’s the thing about pursuing your big dream, fear WILL show up. It’s not a matter of if, it’s just a matter of when. It may be tempting to attempt to wait for the fear to pass before taking action, but that’s not how this works. Action eradicates fear. Taking action, even baby steps help to build your courage and eliminate the fear. Don’t allow fear to keep you paralyzed. Move forward. Here a few ways to build your courage: Get clear on your vision. Clarity is powerful in and of itself. When we don’t know where we are going, it clouds not only our vision, but our judgement. AND it’s exhausting! Take time to get clear on your vision so that you can outline clear action steps. Identify the next step. That’s right. Just one step. Ask yourself, what’s the next best step? Then do it. Find your group...
Why Can’t We Just Say NO?

Why Can’t We Just Say NO?

No is a complete sentence. ~Unknown Over the years I have become quite fascinated by this tiny two-letter word ‘no’. Normally in my sales trainings, I encourage participants to get comfortable with the word ‘no’ because it’s a normal part of the sales process. Unfortunately, you can’t get to yes without a few no’s. Yet this tiny two-letter word has the power to stop people in their tracks because they are afraid of hearing it. Lately, I’ve noticed that not only do many of us hate to hear it, we also hate to say it. Particularly us ladies. I will be the first to admit that I am VERY guilty of not saying NO sometimes even when I know I want to or really should. I love how my husband Toby deals with no, he just says it. He doesn’t offer any explanation nor does he feel any guilt after he says it. If only that could be the case for myself and many of the women, I work with. You may be wondering what suddenly piqued my interest in evaluating how I deal with no. It all began in the grocery store. I recently went out to our neighborhood Fry’s grocery store and as I was walking in I saw the Cub Scouts standing near the exit. I hate to admit it, but my initial thought was “oh great… why can’t I just shop in peace?” Oh but wait… it gets better. I realized that once I was inside the grocery doing my shopping this was the day for the pillow ladies to be there. O-M-G… these ladies...
5 Keys to Own Your Power

5 Keys to Own Your Power

“Power is the ability to take one’s place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one’s part matter.” ~Carolyn Heilbrun When speaking of power many women leaders struggle with being powerful. This is often because women leaders have a warped view of power and haven’t developed a personal definition of power. If you are going to lead like a lady and shatter your inner glass ceiling, you MUST own your power and understand that you are NOT a victim. You are a powerful leading lady. You are a doyenne! Say it out loud: I am a doyenne! While there are many obstacles that you may face as a woman leader on your way to the top, having a victim or ‘woe is me’ mentality will not serve you well. The truth is, as a leader you have power. It simply comes with the territory. And women are more powerful than you think. Did you know that women control $12 trillion of the world’s wealth? And that companies who are led by women have a 36.4% greater return on equity than firms that do not? When leading like a lady, you must understand the importance of power and know how to use that power to move your career and team forward. However, before we talk about this further, I must ask you a question: how do you feel about being a powerful leader? What is your perception of power? I want you to pay attention to the thoughts, images, and feelings that come up for you. This will provide key insight into how you view...