Have you ever had to make a bold move out of your comfort zone? You know the kind of decision that flooded your mind with doubt and your heart with trepidation… yeah THAT kind of move.
That was me recently in my business.
For the past year or so my company has had the opportunity to support the business growth of one of my mentors. Talk about an opportunity to learn, grow, expand and have a lot of fun while doing it.
Let’s just say it was one… wild… ride! And yet I felt the familiar pangs of longing to focus on some projects that were in my heart and to have the time freedom that led me to launch a business in the first place.
But did I mention, I was learning, growing and having fun?
Why did my gut have to get in the way? What would I do now without the solace and protection of my mentors? Would I be okay? Did I really have the courage to leave this group who had become family? Was a move that drastic even necessary?
These were many of the questions that I asked myself as I wrestled on the inside before making the decision to pick up the phone and say to my mentor “I’m leaving the team.”
Surely there had to be another way!
My husband, Toby and I decided that it was time to direct more of my focus on other projects that were more directly related to my business and its growth.
How do you make the leap when things are seemingly going well? Or even when things aren’t necessarily going well, but you are quite familiar with the way things work, what do you do then? How do you move forward?
Below are five strategies that I’ve used and that I share with my clients when it’s time to push past the fear and take the leap:
- Make the decision. This is probably the hardest part. Coming to that place within yourself when you know that you are going to move forward with taking this leap and you aren’t sure how it will turn out and/or how others will respond. However, nothing will happen if you don’t get off the fence and make the decision.
- Map out your plan. You may be thinking, but Dr. Nadia shouldn’t this one come first? No. If you don’t make the decision, you won’t make a plan. It doesn’t have to be a 12-page discourse, but you need to have some sense about your next course of action. My best advice is to keep it simple and remain fluid as things are certain to change.
- Take swift, decisive action. In other words… Take the LEAP! You must act. Even if it’s a baby step (i.e. picking up the phone). This is important because the longer you take to act, the harder it is to move. Trust me… I know!
- Brace yourself for the wave of emotions. I would be remiss not to warn you that feelings such as doubt, fear, and uncertainty are bound to show up (even if for a little while). It’s okay if they do. This is not an indication that you made wrong choice or that you are doomed to fail. It simply means you are human. Feel the emotions and do it anyway.
- Maintain your forward focus. It’s highly likely that you will have the temptation to turn back and run to ‘safety’ aka your comfort zone. RESIST! There is a reason why Ginni Rometty, CEO of IBM, states “comfort and growth don’t coexist.” Brace yourself for the discomfort. It will be okay. Just keep marching forward.
A special bonus tip is to rely on your inner circle to help you maintain your focus and courage. I have a special group of people in my life with whom I can be completely vulnerable and transparent about my feelings and where I am on the journey. They are gracious enough to remind me of my why and encourage me to stay the course.
If you know in your heart of hearts that NOW is the time for you to take the LEAP to achieving your big dream then join me in Dallas, Texas, October 14-15th at the Take the Leap Conference. We will help you get clarity on your next steps and map out the exact strategies to help you achieve your goal. Have questions? Shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.