A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult. ~Melinda Gates
I rarely talk about politics, mainly because they seem to bring out the worst in people. I mean the absolute worst!
This last presidential election in the United States was just downright brutal. Whether you were a #NastyWoman or a staunch Trump supporter, I believe that is one thing everyone can agree on. It was one ugly fight.
However, that is not what this article is about so breathe.
I want to talk about one of the themes that arose after the election and that was women and how we process our feelings.
Every woman I know felt some type of way about the presidential election results.
She was disappointed.
She was afraid.
She was happy.
She was angry.
She was confused.
She was indifferent.
She was hopeful.
She was numb.
She was worried.
She was frustrated.
She was relieved.
She was sad.
She was excited.
She was mad as hell.
She may have even been some combination of all of the above.
It doesn’t really matter, but one thing was for sure… she had some feelings about what was happening in the world around her.
And that’s where things became interesting.
As women turned to social media and other outlets expressing their feelings about the election results, those who expressed those feelings of anger, disappointment, sadness, and grief were “encouraged” to get over it, stop focusing on the negative, to pick up and move forward, etc.
Why? Why must we stuff our feelings so that others can feel okay? Why does it seem as if women are cast in a certain light if they express any “negative” emotions?
Expressing our emotions is a natural and healthy process. According to psychologists, suppressing your emotions can lead to “mood swings, unexplained sadness and depression.”
We all process our emotions differently and at different paces.
If you still need time to cry. Cry.
If you still need time to grieve. Grieve.
If you still need time to pray. Pray.
If you need to get help. Get help.
If you still need time to pull it together. Then do that.
Do not allow others to dictate to you how you should process your feelings or how long it should take. And that goes for any situation in your life, not just this year’s election.
I believe that as women, our emotions and feelings are one of our superpowers and when we allow others to dictate how we “should” feel, we are giving our power away. Take your power back and don’t ever let it go.
Dr. Nadia Brown is an authentic, bold champion for women business owners and those women who desire to become business owners. She is the founder of Doyenne Leadership Institute, LLC.
Through her coaching and workshops, she helps women break through the glass ceilings they encounter in business by helping them build profitable and sustainable businesses. When it comes to sales, women come to her timid and shaky about going after the money – they leave her strategic, strong, emboldened and most importantly, paid.
She is the author of Leading Like a Lady: How to Shatter Your Inner Glass Ceiling and lives with her husband Toby in Phoenix, AZ. Find out about upcoming events at www.doyenneleadership.com/events.